When they call you a Cougar…
Cougar, I knew the word to mean an older woman that was interested in sex (generally with no strings attached) with men usually substantially younger. I had looked at the word “cougar” as neutral. I didn’t view it as a good or bad thing. I thought it was a rather empowering attitude a woman could take as men have been doing this same thing with no repercussions to their reputation.
In a conversation with some friends, I learned that it is actually rather seen as quite demeaning to women. Men can look upon cougars as desperate and easy lays. “It originally referred to an undesirable older woman, one who, like the wild cat, preyed on the weak and defenseless”. It was deemed a very sexist term. In searching for the etymology of the word I learned that it could be traced back to a Canadian hockey team, The Vancouver Canucks, who used the term and referred to their groupies in an unflattering light.
Urban dictionary defines it as
An older woman who frequents clubs in order to score with a much younger man. The cougar can be anyone from an overly surgically altered wind tunnel victim, to an absolute sad and bloated old horn-meister, to a real hottie or milf. Cougars are gaining in popularity — particularly the true hotties — as young men find not only a sexual high, but many times a chick with her shit together.
So, guys, next time you start to refer to a woman as a Cougar, just don’t do that.